WARNING: This post contains spoilers fromThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveepisodes 1-4.
Lexi Goldberg wants us to be dating more intentionally.
Netflix’sThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveputs relationships to the test in a daring social experiment.
Rae Cheung-Sutton and Lexi Goldberg on ‘The Ultimatum Queer Love’.Netflix
Lexi gave her girlfriend Rae an ultimatum and the pair entered into the process.
What stands out to you from that time in the process looking back?
What’s really cool about the process is going into these conversations super intentionally.
Vanessa Papa and Lexi Goldberg in ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’.Netflix
Every date we talk about marriage, financial situations, family dynamics, and other really big conversations.
What was it that drew you to Vanessa initially?
If I look back at my dating history, I traditionally have dated people that are more reserved.
Lexi Goldberg on ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’.Netflix
It [brought] something out in me that my past relationships haven’t.
We did play really well off each other on our dates and had good laughs at first.
What do you remember about “The Choice” ceremony and confronting Vanessa?
I couldn’t pull her aside for five minutes to fill her in.
I don’t have any regrets about how I did it.
What I do think about is the sense of vagueness in what I was saying.
Can you explain why that is necessary from this experience?
This wasn’t a fun dating show where everybody was single.
We all had full lives with people that we were living with.
My clothing was in drawers at our apartment.
It’s not like I have my own place and I’m going back to it after this.
We were all giving everything we had up until that point or so I thought.
We have a responsibility to handle this with care.
Families, children, parents, and grandparents were involved.
If you’re going into this show, you’re putting your heart on the line.
At that point, I was damn near exhausted from how much I had given myself to this process.
Then for my very last day of dating to receive such a 180 was frustrating.
You and Mal bonded so well and we saw some pieces of your time together.
Any fun stories while sharing the apartment that we didn’t get to see?
Every moment of us together.
We called it “Baskiat.”
There were so many fun moments.
[There were also some cultural things.]
c’mon wash the chicken" and the chicken was in the pan already.
Am I supposed to take it out and put it in the sink?
I absolutely loved every moment of it.
It was so fun, so pure, and genuine.
Can you talk about bringing those conversations to the show?
What it meant to have children.
What if one of our children, skin color-wise, is Black and one is not?
How do we handle those children with care?
Where are we going to raise a family?
Or support them to understand their culture?
What does having a Black sperm donor or a white sperm donor mean for our children?
These are conversations I don’t think we’re having nearly enough.
It’s 2023 and the world is not in a good place.
People are not being supported in the way they need to be.
Mal mentions potentially leaving the experience engaged to you.
What would you say about the romantic potential between the two of you?
The first week and a half we were blossoming into this amazing relationship we built together.
I don’t think we had enough time.
It’s hard when you have a few weeks and you don’t want to be reckless.
This is somebody who will be in my life.
These are just the ways we’ve integrated each other into our lives.
What do you remember about confronting Vanessa about having sex with Rae?
I had so many questions.
I’m a person who just likes the full picture of what’s going on.
It’s hard when nobody remembers what happened.
It speaks to the recklessness and carelessness of what you’re doing.
These two over there are like hot potatoes doing it and then saying they don’t love each other.
I did have questions about that.
What can you tease about what’s to come in the next batch of episodes?
Absolutely and utter chaos.
It’s going to be drama on drama on drama.
It’s going to be messy as hell and it is definitely entertaining to watch.
The Ultimatum: Queer Lovereturns with new episodes May 30 on Netflix.
