She had love then found love.
We talk to Yoly all about her big decision.
WARNING: This post contains spoilers forThe Ultimatum: Queer Love.
Yoly on ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’.Netflix
In the end, Yoly had the toughest choice onThe Ultimatum: Queer Love.
Then during the reunion, we learned that Yoly ultimately did not end up with either.
ENTERTAINMENT WEEKLY: What do you remember about your first dates with Xander?
Yoly Rojas and Xander Boger on ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’.Netflix
YOLY: When I first met Xander I thought she was not interested in me.
But through our dating process we started to see how aligned we were.
When did you know you’d fallen in love with Xander?
Mal Wright and Yoly Rojas on ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’.Netflix
One time she made me carrot fries so I would eat before my interview.
The carrot fries were a big thing.
All my friends heard about the carrot fries.
It was really beautiful.
Mal is a wonderful person who I wanted to spend my life with.
What we had was very different.
At the same time, me and Mal had lots of therapy.
We tried everything and it still wasn’t aligning.
We had moved to Seattle, broken up, gotten back together.
Then I met Xander and so much was aligning.
You say yes to Mal’s proposal.
What was going through your mind during that moment?
Three weeks was not enough time to sort through the problems that we had.
Apparently three and a half years was also not enough time.
Did seeing you almost lose me make you want to propose?
After getting engaged, you meet with Xander.
Can you talk to us about that moment?
It’s not that I wanted to run away with Xander necessarily.
That would have been chaotic at the time because we both needed time to sort ourselves out.
And I was like,Am I making the right decision?It was terrible and tough.
I didn’t know if I would ever see Xander again.
What did you learn about yourself in this process?
I realized that I rationalize people’s red flags.
There’s no more ultimatums.
In the reunion, you reveal that you and Mal broke up after your got engaged on the show.
In that time, she let me know that she was moving out.
It just was not gonna be it.
You and Xander mention meeting up again after the show.
Can you share what happened with the two of you after we last saw you together in the finale?
After the show, me and Xander would touch base.
Then it made sense to meet up and it just made sense because I had Coachella tickets.
It was kind of the halfway point for us with Xander in Hawaii.
Nobody knows who we were at the time.
But upon meeting, we just had some much healing to do.
Being in a relationship together wasn’t the right decision.
What does it mean to you as an LGBTQ person to have this show exist?
I hope that it is helpful for anybody who is watching.
There’s a variety in all of us.
I think I would have come out sooner had I known that lesbians can look like this.
All episodes ofThe Ultimatum: Queer Loveare streaming now on Netflix.
